Dating & Attracting

How to pick the right online dating service.

August 21st, 2010

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Dating sites are not what they used to be. The more reputable dating sites to great lengths to help you find compatible dating matches. Many allow you to match by lifestyle, personality and even by interest. Since everyone is looking for different things in an online dating service, it’s important to look around until you find one that suits your personality.

Chemistry sets itself apart by offering unique chemistry and personality tests.

Perfectmatch like Chemistry, is also committed to finding highly compatible matches.

Match boasts one of the largest and most diverse of all the online dating services, so if you’re looking for a huge variety of possible dating matches, then you’ll enjoy this site.

FriendFinders is less into find the perfect match than it is for helping you find friends at all levels. It also has the features of a social network like facebook.

Spark is a trendy online dating site which boasts itself as being compatable with Eharmony and Match. They’re smaller and less expensive. They’re also a major contender in the online dating field.

True is a smaller dating site that offers coaching and matchmaking services as well. They also provide criminal background screenings.

Zoosk is social dating network. It integrates with the social networking sites including Facebook, MySpace and Hi5

Singlesnet has a fairly large membership and is also easy to navigate, however you’ll find the interaction with members somewhat more restricted.

Take advantage of your online dating profile.

August 19th, 2010

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After choosing the online dating site, you’ll have to fill out your dating profile. Your user name is pretty important because it will encourage more people to become interested and click on your profile. Don’t make your user name bland like akjohnson421…that’s kind of of boring. Make it personal and interesting. Think of 3 user names and run it by your friends for their opinion.

Also many online dating services allow you to use tag lines. Tags are short one liners that capture your essence. Unlike user names, tag lines can be changed. Many people choose a line from their favorite song, favorite saying or meaningful quotes and sayings. This is where you can be witty, interesting, mysterious or profound. Look at other tag lines, to help you come up with your own.

In the about me section you’ll describe yourself, your main interests, how you spend your spare time, anything that will be of particular interest to others. Spend some time to make this section interesting and reflective of who you are. Remember you’re trying to find someone who is compatible. Rotate your photo for greater response. Post photos that are more attractive and make sure that you are the only person in the photo. Make sure that the picture is clear and focused.

Follow these few simple rules for creating an online profile, and you’ll be off to a good start.

Good questions to ask on the second date and beyond.

August 17th, 2010

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Now that you’ve been on the first date, it’s time to delve a little deeper and ask questions that reveal who he or she really is.

How do you like to spend your time alone?
Who are your closer friends?
Do you get angry alot?
What is the biggest change you’ve made in your life recently?
What has been your biggest challenge?
How do you handle stress?
Are you close to your siblings and parents?
What kind of kid were you, did you enjoy your childhood?
What would your closest friends say about you?
What is your favorite getaway?

How to increase your value in her eyes

July 22nd, 2010

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If you can go under the radar and find something that she really values and you can really delve into the subject, taking her side of course, then you would have increased value in her eyes. Let me explain. So few men, or people in general for that matter…. take time to know others on a deeper level, and really try to understand what a person is all about. This approach takes really good listening skills and a very keen perception. It will however pay off in spades if you can master it.

The idea is to reveal your sensitivity to something that is dear to her heart and comment on it. She will be impressed that you were so sensitive and intuitive. For example, if she’s trying to go to school while working, you might go into the fact that many people do not think it is feasible to go to school and work, but when you have passion about something it becomes easy. If this really resonates with her, then your value in her eyes will go up instantly. You will be perceived as someone who is not only smart and sensitive, but also as someone who is different from most of the rest.

Finding the right connection

July 22nd, 2010

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If you’re not finding the right connection or if you continually find that everyone you meet is falling far short of what you want, perhaps it’s time for a reassessment. Maybe you need to take a closer look at yourself and even reconsider what you’re looking for in a date. These questions will help you take an honest look at yourself and make more connections:

Take a good hard look at yourself.

Are you the person that you’re expecting from others? For example, if you want a 5’10 model with an awesome personality and her masters in psychology, do you have the comparable attributes or qualities?
Take a good hard look at yourself. Do you get irritated quickly?
Are you bringing excess baggage from previous dates?
Are you too sensitive? Do you frequently take offense at many things that people say?
Do you expect the best? Do you approach each date, expecting a positive outcome? (“Yes” should be the answer!)
Do you talk too much about yourself?
Do you interrupt a lot during conversation?
Do you know how to relax and have a good time?
Do you feel good about yourself?

Some of the very best places to meet new people

July 22nd, 2010

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Meeting new people is not as had as you think. The secret is to know where to go. Naturally, the 2nd step is how to actually mingle and approach those you’re attracted to but we’ll reserve that topic for another post.

1) Barbeques and other outdoor activities. The reason barbeques and outdoor functions are such a good place to meet women is because of the casual atmosphere. Being out in the open and in the fresh air relaxes everyone. This makes approaching women much easier and natural.

2) Museums. Most women find men at a museum a bit mysterious, and alluring. You’ll definitely break the mode from 80% of the other guys, and that is what you want……to stand out and be a bit different.

3) Engagement parties and wedding receptions. At these functions, people are in a good mood. There are plenty of women, and many of them are single.

4) Football parties are festive, relaxing and fun…..great atmosphere for meeting new people.

5) Community projects What better time to meet women, than in a positive experience like a community project?

6) Lunch Dating Do a search in your area for groups that do lunch dating. These are great for meeting the opposite sex and everyone has the same intention of finding a suitable date.

7) Wine Tasting. Nice casual environment to meet women.

Dog Park. If she has a dog, and you have a dog, then this is a great conversation starter.

9) Skiing Trips. Great environment of fun and relaxation makes skiing trips a really good way to find potential dates.

10) Travel Groups. There are all kinds of travel groups: exotic tropical island vacations, luxury and adventure cruises, safaris, and tours.

11) Go to meet-up events at meetup.com. There are a host of different categories.

12)Have a Party and have your friend’s bring friends. Nice social setting, plus the people are somewhat qualified, because there are friends of your friends.

13)Speed Dating Speed dating is a form of matchmaking that focuses on meeting and talking to a lot of people in a short period of time in an organized setting.

The art of being connected

June 15th, 2010

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Have you have ever gotten the jitters when speaking in front of a group? At first you may be nervous and off kilter. The nervousness blocks your authenticity. Your throat is tight, your hands, sweaty. But then something happens and you relax into the moment. Suddenly you pulled it together and you stepped into the “zone”. You connected. It’s the same thing with dating. Your main goal should be to be interconnected, and in sync with yourself. This will reflect confidence and “posture”. By not depending on a successful dating situation, but instead concentrating on being yourself and being in the moment, you’ll attract more women. Try it and see for yourself! People like others who have that sense of themselves.

Dating and Connecting

June 2nd, 2010

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Dating and Attracting

June 2nd, 2010

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